Depresszió, jóga, szoptatás

Minden 10. kismamát érinti a terhesség alatti depresszió, melynek hátterében számos tényező állhat. A Texasi Carlee Beanear első gyermeke születése után úgy döntött, hogy jógával kezeli betegségét. Azóta 3 gyermek édesanyjaként aktívan űzi a sportot, amit várandósságai alatt és a szoptatás időszakaiban sem hagyott abba. Sőt merészen vállalja nézeteit amiről mindig megerősítést tesz közzé Instagram oldalán egy-egy kép vagy videó megosztásával.

Carlee-t nagyon sokan támogatják, de azért rengeteg negatív kommentet is kap, ugyanis egyesek szerint egyáltalán nem kellene ilyen intim felvételeket megosztania másokkal.

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I CAN DO IT ALL.. And why I shouldn't. _____________________________________________ That's what we all aspire to be as mothers, the super human. This week I dove a bit more into my journey of 'Why is it so hard to ask for help/accept help" and let me say, it was a week of raw difficult discovery. Discovering that I can't, in fact, do it all. How did I come to realize this? Well, my husband (with the outer perspective and opposite mindset) pointed it out. He broke it down in an easy to digest ,but blatant truth: "You do so much research on how to be a good parent, but lately you've been the greatest example of what not to do, and it's actually helped me become more conscious of how I am around our kids too. You love to be a good wife. You love to be a good mother. You love to keep a good house. You love to give love. You love to love yourself. There is only one thing wrong with that list; what's last NEEDS to be first. Without YOU nothing else can fall into place, so if you are constantly sacrificing yourself and your needs for your family, they can never be all they can be because the YOU in you is absent. Do you notice that when I need time I put my earphones in and go upstairs or shut myself in my office? You showed me that I HAVE to steal that time for myself if I want to be the best me. You've showed many people that. But, you still can't do it for yourself. Who cares if the sink is full of dishes, who cares about over-flowing laundry if it's going to make you any less you than everyone suffers. A man's mind isn't as obvious as you want it to be. I think about safety, money, food; not whether that towel on the floor needs to be put in the dirty clothes or not. And it's not because it's your responsibility to do those things, it's mine too, but it's not the way my mind is programmed and I WANT you to ask me for help, but what I need to do to help you isn't as obvious as it seems to you, to me." I am a walking , talking example of what we know isn't always what we do. I get stuck and stressed out fighting a fight within myself instead of vocalizing for fear that I will hurt others with my words- as if my action don't speak 👇

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PHOTO by @realteelphoto Day 8 of #anatomyofselflove INFORMATION POST Dalai Lama: "I believe that if we stop to think, it is clear that our very survival, even today, depends upon the acts and kindness of so many people. Right from the moment of our birth, we are under the care and kindness of our parents; later in life, when facing the sufferings of disease and old age, we are again dependent on the kindness of others." To receive kindness does us good. Think of a time someone has been kind to you, in a big or a small way: A passerby gave your directions to reach the station or a stranger threw herself in a river to save you from drowning. What effect did it have on you? Probably a beneficial one, because if someone helps us when we need it, we feel relief. And everyone likes to be heard, treated with warmth and friendliness, understood, and nourished. Something similar happens on the other side of the equation: Giving kindness does us as much good as receiving it. . . .  The true benefit of kindness is being kind. Perhaps more than any other factor, kindness gives meaning and value to our life, raises us above our troubles and our battles, and makes us feel good about ourselves. Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk. It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love. There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn't work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills. CONTINUED IN COMMENTS

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We’re raising women to be sexually dysfunctional, with all the ‘no’ messages we’re giving them about diseases and shame and fear. And then as soon as they’re eighteen they’re supposed to be sexual rock stars, multiorgasmic and totally uninhibited. It doesn’t make any sense. None of the things we do in our society prepares women for that. Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are Did your parents talk to you about sex? What did they say? What did/do you say to your kids? My husband and I were listening to Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski last night, and I asked him ,"Did your parents talk to you about sex?"…."No, did yours?".."No.." I had no idea in reading this book that there was so much I didn't know about my body, sex and my own self shaming. I highly recommend it 💌

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A beggar had been sitting by the side of a road for over thirty years. One day a stranger walked by. “Spare some change?” mumbled the beggar, mechanically holding out his old baseball cap. “I have nothing to give you,” said the stranger. Then he asked: “What’s that you are sitting on?” “Nothing,” replied the beggar. “Just an old box. I have been sitting on it for as long as I can remember.” “Ever looked inside?” asked the stranger. “No,” said the beggar. “What’s the point? There’s nothing in there.” “Have a look inside,” insisted the stranger. The beggar managed to pry open the lid. With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold. I am that stranger who has nothing to give you and who is telling you to look inside. Not inside any box, as in the parable, but somewhere even closer: inside yourself. Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now Pants by @mindfulbohemian Machine washable mat by

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